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Ernest Hemingway was born in 1899, in the Chicago suburb of Oak Park, Illinois. He grew up in a prominent family, with a doctor father and an opera singer mother. His mother was very strict and ensured that the family would live a pristine Protestant lifestyle. One element of Ernest’s childhood that would have a profound impact on him as an adult is the fact that his mother dressed him up in girl’s clothing. She did this because she was so disappointed over not having twins, and would pair him up with his slightly older sister. Hemingway was a well-rounded student and an active participant in his high school, but English class was where he was really given the opportunity to shine.
Rather than heading off to college, eighteen year old Hemingway instead opted to become a journalist. He did this for awhile, and then decided that he was going to be involved in the military somehow. After failing an examination which disqualified him from active duty, Ernest joined the Red Cross. This did not prevent him from seeing the harsh realities of war, and the images would provide much of the inspiration for some of his most famous novels.
One of these novels about war was The Sun Also Rises, which focuses on the Lost Generation, the nickname given to young people who had been through various aspects of World War I. The characters in the novel are all trying to pick up the pieces after witnessing some of the horrors and the evil side of humanity. Their interactions with one another are plagued by issues of sexuality, racism and strong psychological reactions to their situations. Hemingway liked to explore the depths of human relationships, both abnormal and normal, with a major event serving as the backdrop for the characters to reference. Furthermore, the way in which the characters speak to one another is a technique that Hemingway uses in many of his works. He prefers a more direct tone, rather than offering lengthy sentence structure and reflection. The characters and settings, while symbolic, talk in the way that we would have an every day conversation on the street.
A major theme of this story lies with the main character and narrator of the story, Jake Barnes. The war has left him impotent, and thus unable to pursue a sexual relationship with the main female character, Brett Ashley. Brett, while beautiful, is somewhat masculine in nature, which provides a stark contrast. Hemingway uses a role reversal to play with our thoughts on war. This hero comes back unable to show the ultimate in manhood, which would be making love, while his female counterpart is quite promiscuous and nonchalant about her affairs, as men would stereotypically be.
Another element widely used in The Sun Also Rises is the absence of trust and insecurity. While this is blatant in Brett Ashley’s characterization, there is a more subtle trust issue among the men within their friendships. The character of Robert Cohn is the target of much scorn and resentment from the others. On a superficial level, many of the men distrust him because he is Jewish, and this was a time of anti-Semitism, due to the gradual rise of Hitler during the World Wars. But, there is deep-seeded hatred that Jake feels because he feels somewhat stripped of his masculinity by Cohn. Not only does he get the woman that is the object of his desire, but also he has not fought in the war. His romantic notions of war having not suffered tragedy breed hatred toward him.
Sexuality of course is a recurring theme throughout the novel, but its overall destructiveness and corruption of behavior can also be found. The bullfighting is a great symbol used to portray this downfall, because of the way in which it is described. It shows the duality of sex, in that it is seductive and creates a wonderful feeling throughout the body, as the initial charge of the bull does. But, just as there is an extreme brutality in the sport, so is there in a sexual relationship. When sex is frivolous, it is inevitably on the path toward destruction.
It was not uncommon for Hemingway to insert several personal elements in his writing. Heavy drinking occurs throughout The Sun Also Rises as a catalyst, it seems, for the honesty of the characters. Perhaps this was an early attempt for Hemingway to bleed his demons out onto the page, because he had suffered from alcoholism for a good portion of his life. To what extent this novel is autobiographical is not known, but it is a safe assumption that he did inject a part of his personality into the characters and plot.
Ernest Hemingway’s writings are still discussed today, because of the complexity and symbolism of the characters and events. Combining historical facts with straightforward dialogue, The Sun Also Rises provides insight into the futility of war and the repercussions for a young generation who have seen immense tragedy.
First, the skin characteristics of ABC
Skin is the body’s largest organ, the total weight is about 16% of body weight, adult skin surface area of about 1.5 square meters.Skin consists of epidermis, dermis and subcutaneous tissue of three parts, the thickness of the skin under the age varies parts, not including the subcutaneous tissue, about 0.5-4 mm.Eyelid, vulva, breasts, facial skin is thinner, hand, foot the thickest skin.
Mainly by the epidermal keratinocytes and dendritic cells, is divided into five layers from the outside, the outermost layer of keratinocytes is completely keratinized, dehydration, has a protective effect, called the cuticle.The deepest phase cells were cylindrical and dermis, called the basal layer, keratinocytes can produce new cells, the cells are constantly goes up and eventually fall off, this cycle about 28 days.Between the basal layer melanocytes, melanin can protect the organization from the deep ultraviolet radiation damage.Below the epidermis is the dermis, subcutaneous tissue, there have fibers, cells, connective tissue, adipose tissue, blood vessels, nerves, skin appendages, etc., provide nutrition for the skin.The skin has a certain toughness and elastic, moisturizing, buffering stress.
Because the skin has these characteristics, so it has protection, absorb nutrients, regulating body temperature, secretion and excretion, feeling, beauty, metabolism and immune system.
Second, how to maintain skin
Skin as the body of an organ, part of the body to maintain good skin, first of all pay attention to the maintenance of overall health:
(1) to maintain a happy and cheerful thoughts, to prevent aging of the skin has a very important role, people inside and outside the living environment in harmony and unity achieved.
(2) adequate intake and essential nutrients, diet should be diversified to avoid the kind of food, should eat some protein, vitamins, minerals-rich foods.
(3) should ensure that adequate sleep, skin and breathing of the time update in the 10 pm to 2 am or so, so avoid staying up late, is very important for skin health.
(4) adhere to regular exercise, enhance physical fitness.
Second, we must pay attention the health of local skin care:
‘ skin clean: clean facial cream or facial cleanser to remove dirt, will face cream applied to the forehead, nose, cheeks, chin and neck at, at your fingertips up in various parts of the face massage, facial oil dissolved,and then use warm water (water temperature below 35 ) from outside to inside, from the bottom face and neck flushing, usually 1-2 times a day.
For the whole body skin clean, location, varies depending on the season, usually 1-2 times a week can be better to use soft water cleaning, rub lotion after bathing to keep skin moist.
‘ According to the different types of skin care.We must first learn to judge the nature of their skin, the method is simple, the evening will be cleaned face, do not apply any fat cream, the next morning with a clean, gently wipe both sides of tissues in the nose, if full of paper towels absorb oil, it is oily skin, if a little greasy, but not too much, it is normal skin, if virtually no fat, are the dry skin.
Strong secretion of sebum oily skin, large pores, acne prone, but strong stimulation of tolerance, a day at least 2 times with warm water washing, followed by topical Lotion, topical creams, such as cold cream.
Dry skin dry, less sebum, the skin white, easy wrinkling, intolerance stimulation, wash with warm water 1-2 times a day, do not use soap, the general agent to protect the skin with fat.
Normal skin, between the between the two, usually used emulsion skin care.
Sensitive Skin: The skin meager cheeks in the capillary expansion, lack of luster, easy to allergies.Application of such soft skin clean, avoid excessive scrubbing with a towel, avoid using perfume, skin care products available children.
Combination skin: nose, paranasal, for oily forehead, cheek to dry, care when both.
Third, the skin care precautions in accordance with the nature of their skin care routine, it should also pay attention to:
* Avoid cold and wind stimulation, especially in the winter and spring, so the skin becomes dry and rough.
* Sunlight or ultraviolet radiation, is one of the main factors of skin aging, excessive sun exposure can cause skin wrinkling, relaxation, aging, pigmentation, telangiectasia, photosensitivity dermatitis, skin cancer and other diseases.People should avoid from 11 am to 3:00 exposure to sunlight, they went out with a hat or umbrella, sunscreen outside.For facial freckles, telangiectasia, skin pores and other issues photorejuvenation equipment available for treatment.
* Avoid eating spicy, stimulating food and drink, especially alcohol and smoking, smoking will prevent the skin’s metabolism, accelerating skin aging.
* Avoid prolonged heavy makeup and makeup are not royal sleep, so that is not conducive to the skin to breathe.
* Do not turn your faces as the “experimental field” and avoid the skin at the same time series with different kinds of cosmetics, skin prone to allergies and other adverse reactions.In short, skin care should pay attention to the health of the body, local skin care and proper use of skin care products and other issues.Once the skin problem should be to the regular hospital treatment specialist, not your casual drug use leading to exacerbations or adverse effects.Wishing you a beautiful permanent, eternal youth!
1. The mashed banana, add milk, applied to the face.Wash after 20 minutes, you can make your skin smooth and delicate.
2. Stir the honey and egg white in the face after the coating can make the skin smooth and reduce wrinkles.
3. The turmeric powder and milk mixture coated on the face to remove sunburn and reduce the hair on his face.
4.Cereal, cheese and tomato juice Stir painted face, 20 minutes and then cold water wash to help restore sun-darkened skin, shiny skin.
5.The Health and potato chips attached to the face can reduce the color of freckles and scars.
6.Cucumber juice is great Lifting of water.The cucumber sauce evenly coated on the face can tighten pores.After 15 minutes, washed with water.
7.Rhubarb and lime juice can also help restore the skin tan.Lime juice is natural bleach.
8.Honey can make the skin smooth and shiny, and reduce wrinkles.
9.Citrus fruit juices are a good choice to deal with oily skin.
10.Ice friction with the skin can tighten pores and promote blood circulation.
We all know that exercise is very important. We have been told this since we were children but the fact is most people just do not want to do it! Not everyone likes he idea of jogging around and getting all sweaty but exercise is very important. You just need to find some form of exercising that you enjoy and try to incorporate it into your daily lifestyle. Once it becomes a routine it becomes easier and soon you will be exercising everyday.
I found a great way to exercise and reduce belly fat and I have been doing it since I was a little girl. When I was a kid I had no idea that it was actually exercise but now as an adult, I have found it to be fun and it really does help sculpt a thinner belly. I am talking about using a smooth hula hoop. It really works my abs. The first few times I did it, I could only do it for a few minutes at a time. I started doing it during commercial breaks, while I watched TV at night.
Smooth Hula Hoops
The Pros: Smooth hula hoops are less likely to cause bruising like a hula hoop with ridges does. You can expect to find them in the same price range as their counterparts. Smooth hoops will also give you just as much of a workout as a ridged one. If you bruise easily then a smooth hoop is what you need!
The Cons: Smooth hoops can be more difficult to get started especially for beginners but once you get them going it becomes second nature. It took me a little while to get it going but it was fun! If you tend to give up on things easily then a smooth sided hula hoop is not for you!
An 18th Birthday is really something to look forward to, the big birthday, the day you are finally an adult. An 18th is a day full of fun, laughter, partying and importantly, presents. An 18th isn’t just like any other birthday so it’s important that the 18th birthday gifts reflect this. Many simply do not know where to start looking for 18th birthday gifts.
The gifts need to memorable and potentially last a lifetime. However, 18 year olds are still teenagers, like all teenagers, they seek excitement, novelty and thrills so a serious dull gift will not suffice. If you want to buy a gift that will last and not end up sitting at the back of a dusty cupboard, think about getting something they can use in the future. They can then enjoy the excitement of the gift on the big day itself but also over the coming years. At 18, you have your whole life ahead of you, and the world seems full of possibilities.
Cufflinks are must have 18th birthday gifts, for a man receiving cufflinks is almost a rite of passage. Cufflinks make great gifts as you can never have too many pairs. If you want to spice up this must have gift, why not make it humorous. There are plenty of entertaining and hilarious pairs of cufflinks around that will make him smile. You can find ’18 and legal’ cufflinks that have imprinted a small pint of beer on them.
Although this gift is funny it is certainly not tacky, the cufflinks are individually hand decorated and come in a beautiful presentation box, ideal for that special birthday. There are also plenty of alcohol themed cufflinks that don’t cost a bomb; you can buy cufflinks in the shape of a pint of lager and a packet of crisps, as well as silver frothy beer glass cufflinks.
Personalised or engraved items make brilliant must have 18th birthday gifts to commemorate the day. Personalised items make ideal presents for special occasions; the personal edge makes gifts that bit extra special. It is generally best to steer clear from overly traditional engraved gifts such as tankards, although these make great presents, something unique and different will have that wow factor. For women, you may want to consider an engraved silver mirror or similar item.
This beautiful item will be touching and personal yet practical at the same time. She can carry it with her in her handbag for nights out, special occasions or simply when leaving the house. Every time she looks at it, she will think of you. Alternatively you could get her a hip flask. However, you could take this traditional gift and put a new twist on it. There are funky pink hip flasks available to buy that will really stand out from the crowd, you can also get it engraved with a special 18th birthday message to make it really memorable.
If you want to buy something sentimental but don’t have the money for expensive jewellery, consider buying an engraved trinket box. You can engrave her name and a personal 18th birthday message. This present is bound to be treasured for years to come and will really stand out from other gifts.
An 18th is heavily associated with drinking and partying. Therefore drinking related 18th birthday gifts are must haves. Instead of the typical tankards or 18th birthday beer glasses, try to think of something different. Find something that they can impress their friends with and keep for years to come. For less than a fiver you can buy a Beer Stamp. You can pick from a range of different yet equally funny beer stamps including ‘Don’t blame me, I’m drunk’ or ‘Buy this man a beer’, ideal for an 18th birthday night out.
This hilarious gift is sure to go down well with the birthday girl or boy and their friends. Another cheap but useful and fun gift is a key bottle opener. This looks just like a real key and can sit inconspicuously on a key ring, yet can quickly and easily open bottles. This is a must have gift for a lively 18 year old.
There are a number of must have 18th birthday gifts you should consider buying for that special birthday. Traditional gifts such as hipflasks and cufflinks are ideal presents as are more modern variations of classic engraved gifts, such as engraved trinket boxes and silver mirrors. Drinking related 18th birthday gifts are also likely to be a big hit so why not look for a funny and useful party style gift to help them celebrate in style.
Top 10 Direct To Dvd Movies
Once, straight-to-DVD films were the stuff of bad kung-fu movies. Today even major stars may see their work go directly to DVD. Animated fare can sometimes earn more on the sales rack than in the multiplex. Below is a fine list of some good and not so good movies that went straight to DVD.
Tinker Bell and the Lost Treasure (2009) – This straight to DVD animation for children was the biggest winner in the marketplace in 2009. Disney’s DVD releases are intended for a younger audience. Adults are to be forgiven for tiring of Tinker Bell the second time around.
Suburban Girl (2007) – Alex Baldwin is a great actor, just ask him. No, seriously the star has delivered some very good screen performances in recent years. In Suburban Girl, Baldwin is fine as an older man involved with a younger woman. Unfortunately that younger woman is Sarah Michelle Gellar, who should stick to vampire slaying.
Wonder Woman (2009) – This excellent animated film from Warner is almost too good to be called a cartoon. Keri Russell voices the superhero and the well-scripted story pleases even adult viewers.
The Contract (2007) – Sometimes good movies are crippled by bad buzz. The Contract was intended for Kevin Costner. Costner backed out and John Cusack stepped in co-starring with Morgan Freeman in this good guy, bad guy in the wilderness thriller. Cusack is outstanding. Bruce Beresford directs.
Futurama: Bender’s Big Score (2007) – Fox Television cancelled Futurama in 2003. The continued popularity of Futurama in reruns ultimately led to this very smart, very funny straight to DVD offering.
Man About Town (2005) – What can you say about Ben Affleck? When he’s good (think, Hollywoodland) he’s very good, but when he’s bad he’s Ben. This tale of a nasty Hollywood talent agent would have us think kindly of Gigli.
Highlander: The Search for Vengeance (2007) – An anime addition to the Highlander franchise. This slick offering from studio Anchor Bay serves up better storytelling than several of the Highlander live-action films do. Dig the Scots clan wars!
The Flock (2007) – Richard Gere only gets better, witness his stellar work in The Hunting Party. Gere’s performance in The Flock is good as well. Claire Danes is outstanding. This thriller never quite gets off the ground, but straight to DVD?
Resident Evil: Degeneration (2008) – There’s trouble in Raccoon City, and this animated codicil to the Resident Evil oeuvre gives us zombies to die for.
I Could Never Be Your Woman (2007) – Even a great director like Amy Heckerling, and star Michelle Pfeiffer couldn’t save this cougar-tale of an older woman in love with Paul Rudd. To be fair, the film suffered from distribution problems. Michelle Pfeiffer came roaring back telling a similar story in period piece Cheri.
To assess growth and development during puberty it is important to evaluate sexual a persons maturity ratings and also physiologic changes. These correlate to normal growth levels. Many of the body’s hormones influence growth, such as the growth hormones insulin and thyroxine.
The rate at which the human bone matures is affected by the thyroid hormones, and gonadal sex steroids, mainly estrogen. Heightened levels of estrogen secretion can lead to advanced rate of growth, making some kids taller than there friends and double there friends size in extreme cases close double there size.
Estrogen secretion can excessive occur towards the end of puberty, such as the case of Bao Xishun, who was born in Inner Mongolia and is measured at 2.36, that’s a staggering 7ft 8.95 in. He claims to have been normal height until he was 16 until, this growth spurt has been constant for the last 7 years. Bao served in the Peoples Liberation Army for three years, and played for the army basketball team until his rheumatism began to appear, leading to his discharge from the army.
The body releases the growth hormone from puberty up until our mid twenties, but this of course can vary from person to person. Some of your friend will stop growing when there around 19-20 for males, in majority of case this is the earliest that the body will stop growing. Girls can stop growth earlier; a girl at 16 may be 5ft 3in and will not grow in height any more. Females do start puberty a number of years before males so on average they go through puberty and the growth spurts for a similar length of time as a male that stops growing in his early twenties.
At puberty, both sex steroids and growth hormone participate in the pubertal growth spurt. The ending of the growth spurt is secondary to epiphyseal closure, due to the action of the sex steroids. An increase in physical size is also a universally recognized event of puberty. Average growth rates decrease from the first year of life until puberty from 25 cm/year during the first year of life to 5-6 cm/year during years 5 to 10. After the initial growth spurts of puberty the rate at which men grow in height dramatically slows down.
The beginning of the increase in growth velocity is about age 11 in boys and 9 in girls but varies widely from individual to individual. The peak height velocity occurs at a average of 14 years old in males and 15 years old in females. Growth during puberty a accounts for about 20 of an individual’s ideal adult body weight.
Millions of people are very body conscious , with height being a major issue for both male and female, but if your want to know how to grow taller naturally even after puberty read on.
Babies have a natural sucking reflex so pacifiers / dummies are a great source of comfort for them.
Many Health Professionals believe that dummy use should be restricted from around six months of age and that the use of a dummy or pacifier has ended by the age of one, however as children differ age is not set in stone.
Now you will have different reasons as you want your child to ditch their dummy, here are a few important reasons you may not be aware of:
Increased ear infections: There is a proven link between prolonged dummy use and ear infections. Sucking on a dummy increases the chance of an infection back tracking from the mouth into the Eustachian tube (the narrow channels that run between the ears and the throat). Children’s tubes are very small and can easily get blocked.
Link to stomach and other infections: Dummies can harbour many germs therefore they pose a risk to your child suffering from symptoms such as vomiting, fever, diarrhoea and colic..
Dental problems: Dummies / Pacifiers can lead to teeth growth and development, especially if your child is still using their dummy when they have their adult / permanent / second set of teeth. Always try to at least use an orthodontic one available from most chemists and baby stores etc.
Speech impediments: You should always remove the dummy from your child’s mouth when they speak and try to get them to speak more rather than keep pointing at various items or objects.
Remember all the times your child whined or cried, and they were given the dummy / pacifier.
They were programmed to learn that when they were upset this was part of the way they were comforted.
Now we are going to kind of “de-programme” them to thinking that they don’t need this any longer.
Just think if you have to give something up you love, its not fun is it????
So as a parent you will have to take several steps to achieving this goal for your child.
Ok, lets get rid of that dummy, FOREVER !
Step 1 : Involve your Child
Don’t just turn up one day and snatch the dummy / soother / pacifier from their mouth or hand.
The trick is to make your child feel involved every step of the way and to let them feel that it is partly their decision too!
So sit them down, make sure you are at eye level with them, and speak softly, clearly and slowly so they understand.
Simply explain that as they are getting older, now that they are a big boy or girl, etc you know how to speak to your child so use whichever term you feel appropriate and at ease with, that its time they didn’t use their dummy pacifier all the time.
Don’t say never, they will be told that in later steps.
Now you may be met by screams of “no” “no” “no” or tantrums and tears but don’t make an issue of it, this is a good sign that they understood you and know what lies in the future for them and their dummy.
You will re-iterate this point to them at least once every day, no more is needed, too much pressure on your child will not help achieve their dummy free life.
There is no set time scale in your task, patience is a virtue and you will need your patience as anger never gets the right results.
Step 2 : Slowly Wean Your Child off the Dummy
In order for your child to give up their dummy or pacifier, you will have to remove the habit that has formed in their mind.
You have to get your child used to the idea of not having their dummy / pacifier and you have to let your child see that they can cope without the dummy, in fact they will see they can be happy without the dummy at all.
Now you are going to have the patience of a saint, there are testing times ahead but you have to be strong for your child. As a parent you are responsible for teaching them and guiding them to a happy and healthy life, they are totally dependant on you.
Now its up to you which way you would like to perform this step.
a) You can choose a certain time of the day, say 9am until 10am, when no matter what happens your child wont get their dummy, you don’t tell your child that this is the case, instead if they are upset or crying you are going to use your skills to comfort them in other ways, you know what comforts you child but don’t use the dummy.
b) You could just remove the dummy whenever the child seems uninterested in using it, ie. anytime you see the dummy / pacifier you will take it away, out of sight out of mind they say. Often when the child sees the dummy they immediately want it, so removing it from their eyesight is n excellent way to take their mind off it.
c) Pretend to your child that the dummy is lost. Then make a game of finding it, obviously you wont find out, instead you will use this opportunity to distract their attention and focus it on something else. Find a toy, book, when you are looking for the dummy.
d) Your own way! Each and every child has different needs and behaviours. Obviously you know what your child needs, if you think of another way then use that, my steps only worked for my little girl and are just guidelines for you and your child.
Another good tip is never let your child have a favourite dummy now, always change it to a new one, different colour etc, we don’t want them familiar with any dummy.
Step 3 : Alternative methods of comfort
Up until now your child has used their dummy or pacifier for comfort. So now they need an alternative to comfort.
Obviously we are not going to bribe them or buy them gifts, we are not swapping a dummy or pacifier for something else they will have to give up. Your child is upset and needs comfort from you.
Imagine how you feel when your upset, maybe frustrated, hurt or angry.
Try to imagine how your child feels.
Communication is an excellent way of finding out why they are upset so you can therefore remedy the situation, so ask them why they are upset, make sure you ask in a soft voice tone and have direct eye contact with them.
Touch them, its very comforting to know someone is there for you when your upset, especially when you’re a child, give them a hug, hold their hand, sit them on your knee etc, show them you care.
Distract them, we all know how to distract our child from their upset frame of mind. Maybe take them into the bathroom and run the water, children love running water, even let them put their hands or feet in it or read them their favourite story, you know what will distract them.
If all else fails and your child will only respond to the dummy or pacifier, then give them it, we haven’t got to the step where they have dumped that dummy !
Step 4 : Leave the house without a dummy or pacifier
Don’t Panic ! It wont be that bad. If this fills you with dread don’t let it. Just take little steps at a time, I don’t mean go out for a whole day without the dummy, start off little but aim big!
A trip to the swing park, feeding the ducks, take them swimming, anything that will amuse your child and show them that they don’t need a dummy to have happy and good times.
Gradually you will increase the time that you are out the house without the dummy, observe your child when you are out, remember the time it took for them to ask for their dummy, or start to need it. This will help you avoid any screaming matches and those strained looks from other people.
By the way, never mind what other people think, your child is upset and they are your priority, not the disapproving look of some strangers.
Restrict dummy use to key times during the day, such as bedtime or when your child is unwell.
Reward your child with fun activities, or stickers charts, but not sweets or candy!
When you are out make sure you point out any other boys or girls who are not using a dummy, it will make them feel more grown up.
You are aiming to get your child used to large amounts of time without their dummy,
This will help when you both take the final step in ditching the dummy.
Step 5: Ditching the Dummy FOREVER
Ok the time has come, can you say yes to all of the following statements.
You have gradually decreased the amount of time your child uses their dummy, i.e they can go for long periods of time without using it.
Your child is aware that they will be giving up their dummy.
You are confident that you can comfort your child when they are distressed without the use of a dummy
Yes? Great, then you are ready.
One final step, as a grand gesture, you can have a pretend ceremony for your child to get rid of their dummy, the purpose of this is to let your child see that the Dummy is gone, forever and never to return.
My daughter loves Fairies, so the fairies came one night and took her dummy for a little baby fairy.
One person I know tied their child’s dummy to a helium filled balloon and let it float away up in the clouds, gone forever !
Another of my friends gave her child’s dummy to the Bin Man, Trash Man and he threw it in the back of the Trash / Bin Lorry.
It is important that your child knows the dummy is gone, and they see that it is never coming back.
ONE LAST THING REMEMBER THAT ONCE THE GRAND GESTURE HAS BEEN DONE, AND THE DUMMY IS GONE, IT CAN NEVER RETURN!
BE PATIENT, BE STRONG AND NEVER GIVE IN.
YOUR CHILD CAN AND WILL GROW OUT OF THEIR DEPENDANCY OF A DUMMY